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I’m making a list and checking it twice…

I’m not one for New Year’s resolutions. I don’t make wild-life-changing-unattainable-sweeping-statements at the stroke of midnight on Dec 31.

…I do that enough during the year!

But rather, I prefer to set goals for the year ahead.

Here’s my distinction, resolutions are promises that you make to yourself to start doing something different on the first day of the year. And this rings true, if you look into the history of New Year’s resolutions. Around 2000B.C. Babylonians held semi-annual festivals around the spring and autumn equinoxes. Back then, people marked the beginning of a New Year by paying off debts and returning borrowed goods. This practice carried over into Roman times with worshippers offering resolutions of good conduct to a double-faced deity named Janus, the god of beginnings and endings. When the Roman calendar was reformed, the first month of the year was renamed January in honour of Janus, establishing January 1 as the day of new beginnings.

Goals, on the other hand, are ongoing, planned, strategic and requires discipline. Remember the ‘ol SMART principal, goals should be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely, and there’s a lot more to do than just write them down! See link for guidance on each of the SMART principals.

F. Scott Fitzgerald, one of the greatest American writers of the 20th century, once wrote,

“I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.”

In heeding Fitzgerald’s words, on the eve of my 30th birthday last year, I made a very strong, personal resolution to change an aspect of my life. And, as I stepped through the door to my 30’s, I felt lighter (metaphorically speaking), happier, more powerful and determined and I can hand on heart say, over 12 months later, I’ve stayed true to that resolve.  So not all is bad with having a resolutions, the kicker is turning them into goals.

Russell Brand, yes, I just made an outrageous leap from Fitzgerald to Brand but bear with me, talks in his latest clip,
Time for a spiritual revolution about the power of humanity with the primary premise being, “we’re all one, all together, and every individuals rights need to be respected.” Now I’m not overly spiritual, but I feel there is some honesty and provoking truth to his messages, “we need to create a cultural narrative of love, unity and togetherness.”

So as 2013 draws to a close, I want you to stop and think about your own life for a moment. Because, life is precious!
From farewelling a close relative this year to seeing the purest euphoria on my brother’s face at the birth of his new son, it’s made me stop and think, what’s really important in my life? What makes me happy? Where’s my passion? What do I want to be known for? Where can I make a difference? What’s holding me back?

As I reflect back on 2013, it’s been a year of discovery and learning.

I can’t wait for 2014! Goals are set! It’s been a HUGE six months since launching MY{WEDDING}GUESTS…and I can’t wait to show you what I have in store for next year! Some tweaks to enhance your and your wedding guests’ MWG experience, more personal and wedding inspiration, amazingly talented suppliers, and theme daily alerts:

  • Motivational Monday  {start the week on a high with some inspiration from renowned business and life leaders}

  • I heart Tulles-day  {all things Tulle! I am obsessed}

  • Well-being Wednesday  {everything from health and fitness to philanthropy}

  • Trending Thursday  {what’s happening in the world of fashions, beauty, music}

  • Phew…Friday!  {the weekend in here! Where to head…bars and restaurants reviews, must do weekend activities}

  • “I do” Saturday  {all things weddings}

  • Jet-set Sunday  {ideas for holidays, wedding venues and destinations weddings, honeymoons, hen’s dos}

So a big Christmas hug to you all! Have a wonderful break, stay safe, embrace your family and friends, and appreciate everything you have.

You are unique and wonderful! Go get what you want!